BDSM is a lot like martial arts. You’ve likely seen glimpses of it a couple times growing up, found it interesting, and likely thought that you could just dive into it easy-peasy. You technically could—but not without the risk of getting your ass whooped in the not-so-fun way.
Check out these articles below to brush up on the much appreciated ways we can make your first foray into these practices a safe, sane, and consensual one—so that you and your partner can keep coming back for more!
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PsychologyToday.com: “The myth is that it’s abusive. Actually it’s about trust and communication.”
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SchoolOfSquirt.com: “In this guide we’ll go over important tips and sexy information that will help you discover your inner dom, ignite your inner bratty submissive, or perhaps help you to shape yourself into a completely obedient slave…”
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Whether you’re new to BDSM or not, research and reading will be your constant companion throughout your kink journey. The BDSM Wiki is a helpful resource to get you started!
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Domina Chase teaches BDSM using Humanistic BDSM Principles which prioritizes validation, inclusivity, and safety for casual and lifestyle players through the radical normalization of all types of BDSM play for all types of people.
Catch her insightful blog articles on her website—or join her Facebook community for Humanistic BDSM here!
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Shibari.ph: “Should you grab some rope from the hardware store, find a partner, and just go at it? Maaaybe not…
Here are 5 actionable steps so you can get started.”
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ASubmissiveGuide.com: “Sub Frenzy is a very real threat that puts newbies at risk and makes us more vulnerable to predators. Find out what it means!”
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Domina Chase writes: “Have you ever read a BDSM article or discussion thread then suddenly became lost in the vocabulary? Have you ever learned of a new kink but the cis-het or binary language seems to exclude you? Do you just want to find a new kink to explore?
The freshly published Humanistic BDSM glossary at DominaChase.com is here to help!”
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Velma Voluptuary writes: “This is a collection of online materials that are useful for newbies and any kinksters. Hubris is the leading cause of injuries, and learning is a constant journey. This will be my Reader’s Digest and I’ll keep adding to it over time. Feel free to send me suggestions by posting links in the comments.”
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Kinkly.com: “What does Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK) mean?”
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BDSMWiki.info: “A safeword is generally used rather than the words “no, stop” so that the bottom can scream “no, stop”, etc. as much as s/he wants without really meaning it, and yet still have a way of indicating a serious desire that the scene stops. ”
Read more about them here!
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LouisevilleMunch.com: “In an effort to describe in detail the differences between BDSM activities and abuse, practitioners of BDSM have created and relied upon two prominent mottos of their community and lifestyle choices, SSC and RACK.”
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CouplesCandy.com: Want to spice things up a bit in the bedroom? Been naughty and feel in need of punishment? Exploring the exciting world of BDSM might be just what you need to put some serious zing in your sex life.
Read on to find out how you can get in touch with your inner bad girl or boy!
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BDSMTest.org: Not sure which kinks or roles to try out? Take this educational quiz to find out where you are on the BDSM spectrum!
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Kinkly.com: “Sub Frenzy is a very real threat that puts newbies at risk and makes us more vulnerable to predators. Find out what it means!”
