A Loving Introduction to BDSM
PsychologyToday.com: “The myth is that it’s abusive. Actually it’s about trust and communication.”
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Resources / Learning Shibari
BDSM Basics for Beginners
BDSM is a lot like martial arts. You’ve likely seen glimpses of it a couple times growing up, found it interesting, and likely thought that you could just dive into it easy-peasy. You technically could—but not without the risk of getting your ass whooped in the not-so-fun way.
Check out these articles below to brush up on the much appreciated ways we can make your first foray into these practices a safe, sane, and consensual one—so that you and your partner can keep coming back for more!
References & Recommendations
BDSM Ideas: An Illustrated Guide
SchoolOfSquirt.com: “In this guide we’ll go over important tips and sexy information that will help you discover your inner dom, ignite your inner bratty submissive, or perhaps help you to shape yourself into a completely obedient slave…”
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BDSM Wiki
Whether you’re new to BDSM or not, research and reading will be your constant companion throughout your kink journey. The BDSM Wiki is a helpful resource to get you started!
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How to Get into BDSM: A Crash Course for the Curious in Metro Manila
Shibari.PH: “Should you grab some rope from the hardware store, find a partner, and just go at it? Maaaybe not…
Here are 5 actionable steps so you can get started.”
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How to Safely Manage Sub (or Kink) Frenzy
ASubmissiveGuide.com: “Sub Frenzy is a very real threat that puts newbies at risk and makes us more vulnerable to predators. Find out what it means!”
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Online Kink Library (Curated List)
Velma Voluptuary writes: “This is a collection of online materials that are useful for newbies and any kinksters. Hubris is the leading cause of injuries, and learning is a constant journey. This will be my Reader’s Digest and I’ll keep adding to it over time. Feel free to send me suggestions by posting links in the comments.”
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PRICK - A Safety Guideline for Ethical Kink Behavior
Kinkly.com: “What does Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK) mean?”
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Safewords
BDSMWiki.info: “A safeword is generally used rather than the words “no, stop” so that the bottom can scream “no, stop”, etc. as much as s/he wants without really meaning it, and yet still have a way of indicating a serious desire that the scene stops. “
Read more about them here!
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SSC & RACK - Safety Guidelines for Ethical Kink Behavior
LouisevilleMunch.com: “In an effort to describe in detail the differences between BDSM activities and abuse, practitioners of BDSM have created and relied upon two prominent mottos of their community and lifestyle choices, SSC and RACK.”
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What are your kinks/fetishes? (Online Quiz)
BDSMTest.org: Not sure which kinks or roles to try out? Take this educational quiz to find out where you are on the BDSM spectrum!
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What is Sub (or Kink) Frenzy?
Kinkly.com: “Sub Frenzy is a very real threat that puts newbies at risk and makes us more vulnerable to predators. Find out what it means!”
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