Kinksters have different approaches when deciding what happens during a session. Some prefer to be fully informed, some prefer to leave it all up to their partner, and some like to stay somewhere in between.
Because of this, it’s important that people who wish to play with each other figure out which camp their partner/s fall in so that both can prepare to manage their expectations (or lack thereof).
References & Recommendations
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@eggCream: “This video is an animation of a sample rope negotiation, with dialogue taken almost exclusively, with permission, from @Noble, in his writing, ’12 minutes well spent–a scene negotiation example’.”
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RemedialRopes.com: a.k.a. Bondage Negotiation Basics
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We (Shibari Study) cannot stress enough the importance of thoroughly educating yourself about consent and negotiations and making sure that your partners are sufficiently informed as well.
We strongly advise that in addition to reading this section carefully you also do your own research about these topics in order to obtain complete, varied and detailed information to form your own educated opinion. We want you to feel safe, rewarded and empowered by your rope experiences!
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Esinem: “One of the most important areas of of rope, BDSM and, indeed, sexual activity in general is negotiating informed consent. In this tutorial, we will examine what this means and the various ways of doing this. There is no one way that is best, only one that is best for you and your partner on that occasion.”
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BDSMWiki.info: This wiki page on Negotiation for BDSM in general includes tips, best practices, and things you can do in case of abuse.
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@MaiitsohYazhi has yet another great article on their Fetlife writings that even includes a handy negotiation cheat-sheet.
